I used to feel, regardless of whether I agreed with the consensus views about whether people are jerks, assholes, likable, etc., that I could speak with some confidence about what those views might be. Something in the vein of "We say of people like this that they are assholes."
I no longer believe I am capable of this on matters of character. I do not understand the reasons people have for disliking other people as a general matter. Someone can be unlikeable or hard to like without me even knowing this to be the case. If given a reason to dislike the person, I can see it and usually sympathize with it. But I don't see it right off. This is bad. Call it being "out of touch."
